Abandoned

When I look back over my life & think about why certain things didn’t work out.
Like a relationship.
Like a job.
Like a goal.
Like a really great intention…..I see a common thread.

I see a part of me, whether I knew it or not, that really wanted her deepest needs met.

For me, my deepest needs are being seen, heard, understood, connected, loved, & joyful.

Because that part didn’t feel like her needs were going to be met or were important to anyone else in her life, she folded into herself & hid and/or she tried really really really hard to make other people in her life or other things in her life become her priority.
All in an effort to be seen, heard, understood.

She, also, didn’t know how to meet her own needs so asking for anything that meant real, the true connection was scary.

The pattern of trying really hard works sometimes, but it comes at a cost.
The pattern of folding in works sometimes, but it comes at a cost.

It’s like an unconscious choice that we make: abandon ourselves or fear abandonment from others and do anything we can to not feel it.

Our patterns become destructive behaviors because they are trying to meet a deeper need within us.

Learning how to meet that need ourselves all the while asking for it with trusted others deepens our internal & external boundaries and heals our abandonment wounds.

That little girl that feels like she’s in exile needs to feel safe & when she does, the world opens up, your field of vision expands.
Your relationships start to transform & you attract love & connection.

Not abandonment & exile.

Transforming your limiting patterns is not as hard as you may think. The part of you that wants better for yourself is just competing with the part that’s been in hiding.

In safe support, she emerges.
She lives in alignment.
She loves deeply.
She received infinitely.

Don’t worry, I gotchu.

In big love,
💗Lilli