Caring what other people think

“I don’t care what other people think.”

When was the last time that you really believed this? From deep down?

Truth?

I said this for a long time.
I thought I believed this.
I thought that I lived my life on my own terms.
I thought that by saying this, it would make it true.

It turns out that I was addicted to what other people thought.
It turns out that I was addicted to validation.
It turns out that I was addicted to “being the best” or “being perfect” or “being cool.”
It turns out that I was using it as a defense mechanism because people were unsafe..emotionally, spiritually, intellectually.

So, really, I was looking on the outside a lot for things & feelings that I needed to feel inside myself.

The patterns of humiliation when I made mistakes haunted me the rest of the day.
The patterns of even OTHER PEOPLE making a mistake or “being weird” humiliated me & provided deep confusion as to who I really was.

I carried a lot of past shame & blame from others & from myself.
What a burden!

If you’re noticing these patterns too, I want you to know that those patterns can heal.

The looser grip that you have on the control of others, the more aligned you can feel.

When you feel aligned, your relationships can fulfill your life’s purpose.

Anything that enters into my life now, I think of as a BONUS.
It’s a bonus because I am already my whole, aligned self that is resourced beyond measure.

The best news?
Your aligned self is waiting for you to un-layer, un-peel, & heal.
It turns out that you are not the shame & humiliation you carry.

You are so much more.
I want you to see what I see.

In big love,
💗Lilli