Dismantle your wounds so you stop living your life by them. - Nikki Rowe

I remember the feeling of wasting my time dating (or even hanging out) with the wrong people.

I remember constantly being disappointed by people.

I’ve always loved hard & loved big.

I’ve always craved connection & love.

Doing that without boundaries & without knowing what my values were set me up for decades of hurt & pain.

Eventually, I decided to wall myself & my heart in because opening up to people & constantly being hurt was too painful.

I know you’ve tried too.

I’ve bet you’ve read a ton of books.

I bet that you listen to all of the podcasts.

I bet that you can diagnose yourself & the people around you.

But, you still keep seeing the same pattern of dating the wrong people or choosing the wrong people as friends.

If this is you, I want you to know that you make sense.

It’s not you, it’s the emotional trauma you’ve experienced.

These relationships that are “wrong” are just unconscious attempts to stay in what you know.

Just learning about your attachment style isn’t enough.

Processing your unconscious emotional trauma & learning how to regulate your nervous system is the secret sauce when it comes to connection.

When I learned this, the choice to heal was powerful.

I wasn’t lost anymore, but I found myself in choosing I needed help in my healing.

Getting unstuck & having a healthy relationship fills me up now instead of keeping me down. 

It’s for you, too.

In big love,

💗Lilli