Rejection

Feeling rejected when our significant other or close friends spend time with others feels really weird.

It’s almost like a coping strategy to get to the pain first.
Without all of the attention on us, our love tank & self-love dwindles.

And, here come those thoughts that support that wounding:
I don’t really like her anyway.
He’s probably out flirting or doing something bad.
Everything they do is wrong.
Eff ‘em, I don’t need them.

And, after a few days, we feel even more shitty because we go right back to them as if nothing happened.

These coping strategies (mostly sub- & un-conscious btw) help us survive in a world where relationships have traditionally been unpredictable.
This is a world where we are familiar with being hurt by people.
This is a world where, as children, we may not have been truly cherished, seen, or nurtured to BE-come the adults that we were supposed to.

As adults, if we aren’t actively trying to fill up our love tanks by being the first people on their minds, receiving adoration, or (at worst) in arguments or negative activation, then we don’t feel like a real person, like we don’t exist, or that they’ve forgotten about us.

The real truth is, these are just emotional wounds that need healing.

Being stuck in this pattern shows up as anxiety because you are constantly scanning for dangerous situations OR as isolation from anyone that gets close to you AND/OR no love for yourself because your “love” lies in the hands of the other.

If the power lies with them, you, by definition, have no love or power for you.

The best news I have for you today is that you can heal this part of you.
You can be okay & strong & loved within yourself no matter if they stay or go.
The security that you can feel within yourself can be enough.

When this happens, your energy changes.
You know how to be yourself & love yourself, while, at the same time, opening up to the deepest love you can ever imagine.

Your relationships can fulfill your life’s purpose.
This reality is closer than you think.
It’s that something greater that you feel in your deep heart.

Here for it.

In big love,
💗Lilli