Staking Claim in Your Own Life ⚡️
Greetings Magnificent Souls to the Attract Health Build Wealth Blog where we have open and honest discussions about ourselves.
This is a place where we break down, breakaway, and breakthrough codependency allowing ourselves to attract health, build wealth and live a peaceful life.
We are tired of being sick and tired. We are tired, but we are not giving up.
We KNOW that there is something magnificent inside of us.
Because we are fighting daily, hourly, and by the minute: fighting ourselves, our kids, our spouses, we have to do things differently.
We have to break the cycle.
We don’t have a million chances. We have to be happy, NOW.
We have to find a way. So how do we do that? How is that possible?
If you look around at what society is telling you, they’d tell you that what we’re doing is impossible. Yet, it’s happening. Every. Single. Day.
It’s happening through the practice and love that we call Awakening the Magnificent Soul.
We are Magnificent Souls, and these are our stories of healing!
Today, I wanted to talk about the importance of perspective about your life and why it’s so important to take ownership of yourself at the present moment.
But, before we get into the discussion, don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about the blog, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at the Epiphany Vault.
Remember, you can share anonymously; it’s a safe place and I would welcome the discussion.
And on to the topic: taking ownership of where you are, where ever that may be in your life.
I think this is a massively important topic because as codependents we feel powerless about most things in our lives.
And, if you’re like me, you find it difficult to take responsibility and stake your claim in YOUR OWN LIFE.
You could be where I was, completely unhappy and exasperated about how to be happy but not knowing what to do.
You could be in a very healthy and happy relationship.
You could be in a very dysfunctional relationship with someone that is just completely toxic to you.
You could struggle with self-image issues, trouble relating to people, even your family.
Wherever it is that you think and feel at this very present moment.
The inspiration to talk about this comes from my experience with codependency that I have to check and ruminate on every day.
The realization that my mindset is so different than it was 8 months ago is such a blessing and I often think about how I have reached such a peaceful and self-loving point in my life.
I think about how tired I was of trying to be happy but I really wasn’t feeling it deep inside.
I thought about how sensitive I was and I how little things like making a mistake at work could send me into a tailspin of depression and self-loathing.
I thought about a “suggestion or concern” that came from my parents or my former partner really stabbed at my self-esteem, deeply, and I took things like that to heart, believing what they would say and soaking up all of that negativity like a sponge.
As we have talked about before, I reached a point of giving up on my life and that was my epiphany.
At that point, something clicked in me, the thought of suicide was just so scary and so dangerous that finally, I was able to say that something was wrong.
That all of these emotions, thoughts, shames, and fears were just wrong and something about my life had to change.
And had to change soon.
Let me back up a second and provide a little context about my life.
I grew up in a family where dominant and submissive roles were exercised with force. In fact, I still have to deal with them to this day.
Just yesterday, my needs, feelings, wants, and desires were criticized and, actually, ignored. I feel unheard and misunderstood by my family.
What I’m realizing is that they may never understand me, no many how many times I might try to debate with them, or explain my point of view.
It’s sad, but I’m willing to accept this now because I choose my health now.
What I’m, also, realizing is that this power play, so to speak, that has been happening in my family for my whole life has led me to develop my codependency.
How?
It has diminished my self-worth.
It has confused my definition of love.
For me, I have learned to be meek and swallow these jabs at my true self and create an environment to please others.
And, in all honesty, the more I think about it, this podcast segment is what I call the breakaway step.
Break down is the realization that yes, I am codependent.
Breakaway is what we are talking about here, taking ownership of your own well being and realizing that the only true worth is self-worth. That’s part of the breakaway step.
If we could just learn to harness the control and use it for our own good, it becomes a superpower and after I opened up that door, it never closed.
What’s awesome about this power too, is it can be learned, just as we have learned to be codependent throughout our lives, our self-power can be groomed and strengthened. Let’s call it our self-love muscle.
And, when this happens, it is just so profound, and frankly, hard to describe.
Now, I see my life through a new lens, even if I’m having a bad day, even if I make a mistake, even if I catch myself having codependent reactions to situations.
Now, I can be patient and be accepting of myself.
It’s such an indescribably peaceful, loving, and nurturing feeling.
One of my goals with this is to talk more and more about the breakdown, breakaway, and breakthrough steps so that we can begin a discussion and help others that we love to do it.
We will learn how to be consciously present.
And, don’t worry if you’re not ready for this, or if it sounds scary.
For me, I had to go to a very very low place to get to step 1, break down, to even get to a point where I realized that I had to be accountable for my life and for me.
Your journey may be like my journey, it may not be, but I’m glad we are all in awareness together.
And, as I begin to close, I want to throw a few questions at you to think or journal on about this:
If you are asked to take ownership if your life, what’s the first thing that comes to mind?
What, do you think, is making you feel that way?
Why?
If that first thing was a hindrance to your self-love progress, do you feel that if that one thing was eliminated, that you could lead a peaceful life?
Why or why not?
What does a peaceful life look like to you?
If you’d like to share some of these with me at the Epiphany Vault , I would be happy to receive them.
Much love to you all, Magnificent Souls, out there.
Livin’ & Lovin’💗
Lilli