Feeling worthless

The way we relate to others & find ourselves showing up in our relationships is so closely linked to how we were related to in our earliest years of life…

When we are born, we aren’t self-sufficient.
We can’t provide food or shelter for ourselves.
We can’t provide emotional regulation for ourselves - we look to others to help us calm down & feel better.

At that time, we are a sponge.

We start to learn, very quickly, how to get our needs met.
And, if we don’t or can’t, we unconsciously internalize & try to do it on our own.

This is a super super super smart survival instinct on our part.
It’s actually what kept us alive.

If you’re like, “Lilli, my childhood wasn’t that bad.”

I would say that your experience, somewhere along the trajectory of your life has shaped who you are today.

That’s what biology & living is, the cycle of growth & adaptation, growth & adaptation.
If you are having a hard time with relationships today, blame isn’t useful here, but choice is.
For me, it was really coming to the realization that I didn’t want to be spiritually & emotionally dead anymore.

I was done feeling worthless in life.
I was done setting boundaries & not being able to stick with them.
I was done living in the past.
I was done thinking how something or someone in the future would FINALLY make me feel whole & loved.
I was done with isolating myself & my closing my heart.
I was done feeling pointless.

What I had to do, to come into my limitless love, was make a conscious choice to heal.

My emotional wounds were keeping me stuck.
My emotional wounds hadn’t healed so they kept attracting the same crap that I was used to.

After healing, my world expanded.
My bank account filled.
My relationships deepened.
My self-love exploded.
My gifts emerged.
My limitless love attracted more limitless love.

That’s what healing does.

The choice is yours.

Curious, what is one choice you are going to make today?

In big love,
💗Lilli