Pity & Love

How are love & pity similar? How are they different?

What’s your relationship like with these states: love & pity?

I used to know pity AS love.

Pitying someone made me feel helpful.

Pitying someone made my ego feel superior.

Pitying someone made me feel useful.

Pitying became too much compassion & too much people-pleasing & turned into codependent coping.

If compassion was a bucket, I poured compassion into others & not myself.

I was too understanding.

I was too reasonable.

I was too open to “making it work.”

For a long time, I thought pitying & understanding WAS LOVE until I realized that it wasn’t reciprocated.

I had an alter-ego that saw the hurt in others & loved them anyways but was also mean as heck to myself.

Until I learned that love doesn’t mean sacrifice, I continued in this pattern.

Our emotional blocks, if they haven’t been healed, will tell us that we have to give more than we receive.

That in order to FEEL anything, we have to be more and more and more and more to other people.

All the while drifting farther away from ourselves.

When we step into healing, we shine light into our own hearts.

We start to learn that love doesn’t mean emotional sacrifice.

And we start to feel full.

That fullness, that projection of your healing will show other people the boundaries & expectations of your worth, just by being you.

Then the limitless love that you want, in romance, in self, in job, in work, in money enter in spaces that weren’t there before.

The dopest part, it’s not as hard as you think, it just takes one step toward healing.

Love is calling.

In big love,

💗Lilli