Unfair

I remember vividly the feeling of it being unfair.

I wished they would have taught me.
I wished they would have been more emotionally available.
I wished they would have just listened to me.

Ya’ll I get unfair.
I freakin’ get it.

But, can we please stop saying “Life is unfair.”
I used to believe that, but I don’t believe it anymore.

The thing is, yes, we’ve had shitty things happen to us.
Yes, we weren’t treated the way we wanted to be treated.
Yes, we find it hard to find the time, energy, or courage to do the right things for us.

Crazy shift happens when we start to get our power back.
When things & people don’t affect us as much anymore.
When it moves from “why is the always happening to me?” to “what do I need to do to understand my reaction?”

That’s when life becomes “fair” - aka balanced - aka aligned.

The power lies in us to shift our power to goodness.
But if you’re feeling constantly powerless, you may have some emotional trauma that needs healing.

Relationships shouldn’t be all or nothing, they should be the best version of you, always.

When you heal what’s blocking you, that’s what happens.

You learn to prioritize yourself before giving.
You learn that you can serve others with a full cup yourself.
You learn that being the best you can give so much goodness to the ones that you love AND can attract the real relationships that love you for you.

Prioritizing YOU in an aligned way feels so damn good!

You heal.
You live in peace.
Done.

In big love,
💗Lilli